Ted Lasso: Key Moments and Life Lessons Across All 3 Seasons
Last update: 3 Dec 2023 [434 Key Moments]
‘Ted Lasso’ is a show that not only entertains but also offers profound life lessons.
In this post, I will be summarizing each episode, exploring the impactful moments, key takeaways, and life lessons from each of the show’s three seasons.
Currently, I have identified 434 noteworthy moments! If that’s too many for you, see my 3 Life Lessons from Ted Lasso 1 minute video clip.
Throughout the show, we see the following topics on display:
Leadership
Confidence
Assertiveness
Positivity
Resilience
Authenticity
Self-acceptance and self-worth
Relationships - both friendships and romantic relationships
We can learn so much from this show and apply the lessons in our own lives!
I will be updating these notes over time, expanding my thoughts and take-aways as I re-watch the series.
I invite you to comment below and let me know what I missed!
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Season 1
Key Moments + Life Lessons in Season 1: 90
In Season 1 of "Ted Lasso," the series follows the titular character, Ted Lasso, an upbeat American college football coach hired to manage a struggling English Premier League soccer team, AFC Richmond.
Rebecca Welton is the primary female lead and owner of AFC Richmond. She received the club as part of her divorce settlement and intent on destroying the club to get revenge on her ex, Rupert.
Through unwavering positivity, genuine connections, and themes of forgiveness, season 1 highlights the transformative power of optimism, resilience, and the impact of authentic relationships on both the team and individuals.
"Season 1 of 'Ted Lasso' presents a heartwarming and comedic narrative that delves into themes of resilience, personal growth, forgiveness, and the transformative power of optimism and kindness, showing the impact of authentic relationships on both the team and individuals."
s1e1 - Pilot
Rebecca responds back to George with confidence despite his rudeness and lack of respect for her. She maintains her composure after he insults her multiple times. Lesson: Don’t let people get under your skin, be you and be confident in who you are.
Guy on plane asks for an “ussie” - it’s not a “selfie” because there is more than one person in the picture!
“Taking on a challenge is a lot like riding a horse, isn’t it? If you’re comfortable while you’re doing it, you’re probably doing it wrong.” Ted to Beard on the airplane flying to England.
Ted couldn’t sleep on the plane. Lesson: Force yourself to sleep on overnight flights or else you are going to be miserable!
Ted meets Ollie, his driver and befriends him. Lesson: You never know who you are going to meet and what their life is like. Be nice to everyone!
Ted asks Nate for his name and Nate is shocked. Same lesson as above.
Nate totally cracks when he was supposed to introduce Ted and Beard to Rebecca. Lesson: Learn to be assertive and confident. (Which he does later in the show!)
Rebecca: “Do you believe in ghosts Ted?” Ted: “I do, but more importantly, I think they need to believe in themselves.” This is a core belief for Ted Lasso and helps set the foundation for his beliefs and operating principles. Lesson: We all need to believe in ourselves.
Ted asks Rebecca how she’s doing with the divorce. Shows us how much he cares and we see Rebecca is not expecting this at all. Lesson: Ask people how they are doing and care about their answer.
Ted is honest with the press. Lesson: Be transparent. Trying to hide things makes it worse.
Ted appreciates Nate’s sports mix. Lesson: Tell people what you appreciate them and about their efforts, the more specific you are, the better. It means a lot for others to hear they are appreciated and details make it more meaningful. Also - appreciate the little things in life!
Beard and Ted push their desks together to make a more collaborative work environment.
They hang John Wooden “Success Pyramid” in the office.
Ted falls asleep while they are setting up their office. Lesson: Stay awake during normal “wake hours” if you’re traveling to a new time zone!
Ted hangs “Believe” sign.
Ted covers Keeley’s breasts in Jamie’s locker, Keeley sees what he did and appreciates it. Lesson: Respect other people’s bodies!
Higgins reacts with his disgusted “dry vomit” gesture to show that he does not support the current situation, something he repeats throughout the show.
Ted trys to connect with Michelle, but his efforts are pushing her away even more. That’s also one of the reasons he took the job so far away. Lesson: Sometimes people need space to allow for a better connection to form.
s1e2 - Biscuits
Ted says “Be a goldfish” to Sam for the first time and “have a 10 second memory.” Lesson: Don’t let little mistakes hold you back. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
“Take your sweater off before you shower” - Jamie to Roy. Not a life lesson, just funny!
Ted gets army men from son, puts them up in apartment to keep him safe. Lesson: Sometimes a small token can keep ideas and people top of mind.
Keeley asks people if she should be “a Lion or Panda?” for her shoot. Ted says panda. Rebecca says lion with conviction. Jamie says “myself.” Ted: “I don’t know if you know how psychologically healthy that is!” Lesson: The best we can be is ourselves. No growth in trying to be someone else.
s1e3 - Trent Crimm: The Independent
“I have a real tricky time hearing folks that don’t believe in themselves.” Ted.
Ted wants to see Rebecca and Michelle Obama arm wrestle 😂 .
If a teacher tells a bully not to pick on someone you only make it worse.
“You know what you do with tough cookies, right? You dip them in milk!” - Ted.
“I’ve never concerned myself too much with wins and losses.” - Ted to Trent.
Keeley gives Rebecca a little cactus. First time they talk / share a moment.
“I love coaching. Success is not about the winds and losses. It’s about helping these young fellas be the best versions of themselves on and off the field. It ain’t always easy but neither is growing up without someone believing in you.” Ted explaining to Trent why he is coaching.
Roy reading “A Wrinkle in Time” and realizing that “it has to be me, it can’t be anyone else.”
Trent becomes a surprising fan of Ted Lasso, writing a wonderful article about him despite believing that he will fail, saying: “I can’t help but root for him.”
s1e4 - For the Children
Keeley helps Rebecca taking pictures at the charity benefit, further developing their relationship.
Ted wants Roy and Jamie to find mutual respect and common ground.
“Youth is wasted on the young; well I say don’t let the wisdom of age be wasted on you.” - Ted
Rebecca opens up to Ted.
Roy and Jamie open up to each other and have a real conversation.
Rebecca and Keeley chat in the bathroom - Rebecca shares that Rupert was not accountable once in 12 years. This makes Keeley.
Keeley and Rebecca ride in the cart drinking champagne
s1e5 - Tan Lines
Rebecca offers Keeley a job. Lesson: Invest in people you believe in, even if they are a friend! Lesson: Work with good people that are hard workers and you believe in.
Open peanut butter on the counter, referencing Ted’s habit.
It’s mentioned that Nate’s Dad was a cartographer.
“If you’re with the right person, even the hard times are easy.” - Higgins.
Ted takes Jamie out of the game. Big moment to show he’s serious about culture and attitude.
Roy shakes Ted’s hand and says “took balls what you did.” This is the first sign of respect from Roy!
Roy and Keeley have a moment in the parking lot at night after he scares her.
Michelle says that Ted would be “letting Michelle go” not quitting… Ted then gives Michelle permission to get divorced. This is a big step for him.
s1e6 - Two Aces
Repeating “plan” is semantic satiation, when words becomes noises and loose their meaning.
Dani Rojas comes on the show with amazing energy and attitude.
Twist on “Practice” Allen Iverson bit - Ted getting mad at Jamie.
No schadenfreude zone at AFC Richmond. Schadenfreude is a German term that describes the feeling of pleasure or joy derived from witnessing the misfortune, pain, or failure of others. It involves finding satisfaction or happiness in someone else's difficulties or downfall. Essentially, it's the experience of feeling pleased when others encounter adversity.
The papers dub Rebecca Welton “Old Rebecca.”
Hitting the post - Jamie and Danny playing a game. Danny showing Jamie he’s just as good.
Treatment room curse is lifted!
Rebecca trades Jamie back.
s1e7 - Make Rebecca Great Again
Rebecca invites Keeley to come with her to Liverpool.
Sass surprises Rebecca!
Team watches ‘Iron Giant’ movie together.
Ted gets mad at Nate unnecessarily. Ted is really mad about his divorce.
Sass tells Keeley that Rebecca is silly and more fun, not cold. This gives us a peak into Rebecca’s true character and how she was jaded by her relationship with Rupert.
Sass to Rebecca: “you have to own up to the part that you played. You climbed every step in the ivory tower.” Lesson: We have to own our mistakes, we can’t blame them on others.
Rebecca sings!!
Ted panic attack, Rebecca comes to him, showing him genuine care and concern.
Ted signs the divorce papers.
Ted spends the night with Sassy, Rebecca’s friend.
Kelley and Roy kiss but Roy walks away after.
s1e8 - The Diamond Dogs
Keeley tries to connect with Roy multiple times but he’s cold and unaware of how his actions made her feel. Lesson: Be aware of your words and how you’re treating others, treat others the way you’d want to be treated, especially in romantic endeavors!
“You seem intent on going 12 rounds with yourself… Why?” Higgins to Ted.
Beard and Nate tell Ted he needs to cut himself some slack.
Diamond Dogs are formed!
Jamie tells Keeley thank you and that he realizes how much she did for him… which leads to Jamie and Keeley hooking up.
Keeley confronts Roy about his behavior and Roy shares that he wants to do things differently. Lesson: Be open and honest.
Roy comes to diamond dogs for help in getting over Keeley previously having a relationship with Jamie. First time he is vulnerable. “Don’t let her past impact y’alls future.” Lesson: Don’t let your feelings control you. You can’t be a hypocrite. As Beard says “Grow up and get over it.”
Keeley is working with the players on potential sponsorships, Dani wants to give joy away for free. Something we can all do more of!
Keeley and Roy mend their misunderstandings in the press room and on their first date. Roy is transparent about his yoga nights. Lesson: Be willing to admit your mistakes so you can move forward into bigger and better things. Be transparent.
Epic dart scene with Ted, Rebecca, and Rupert. Ted eloquently teaches Rupert a lesson and shares the additional lesson with all of us to “be curious, not judgmental.” Ted shows us he can “close” when the stakes are high. This scene also carries extra weight because of the relationship Ted mentions with his father and the beloved memory of them playing darts together.
Higgins has had enough of Rebecca’s plot to destroy the club and he quits. Lesson: Stand up for what you believe in.
In that same scene, Higgins says “You won’t take away your pain by constantly punishing Rupert.” Rebecca challenges him and asks him how he could hide the fact that Rupert was sneaking around cheating on her all those years, Higgins replies that he has to carry that burden. Lesson: You won’t feel better by making others feel bad.
Keeley finds out about Rebecca ordering the blackmail photos from earlier this season and confronts Rebecca. Keeley tells Rebecca she has to come clean. Lesson: Sometimes you have to hold your friends accountable. And you have to do the right thing, even if it’s scary.
s1e9 - All Apologies
Rebecca magazine shoot, showing she is one of the only female leaders in football.
Keeley holds Rebecca accountable
Rebecca’s ex tells her he’s going to have a baby, to make her feel even more horrible, he tells her in person. Lesson: Leave people alone. If you’ve ended things, just move on.
Rebecca tells Ted that she was sabotaging him and trying to destroy the team all along. He forgives her immediately. Lesson: Believe in the goodness of people and what’s true in their hearts, not what they do when they are hurt.
Rebecca apologies to and rehires Higgins, a sweet moment. Lesson: Make amends!
s1e10 - The Hope That Kills You
“Y’all say ‘It’s the hope that kills you’… but it’s not having hope that kills you.” - Ted
“Do you believe in miracles?” Reference to the 1980 US Olympic Hockey Team who achieved the impossible.
“Not going for a tie; going for a win.” - Ted. This becomes ironic later.
Roy chases Jamie down to prevent him from scoring, leaving it all on the line but also ending his career with an injury. Probably the best possible way for Roy Kent to leave the game of football.
Jamie makes the extra pass! Ted later sends him a “good job” note about it.
It’s easier to lose together rather than to lose alone.
Be a goldfish!
Season 1 Key Takeaways:
Confidence and Resilience: Embrace confidence despite challenges and maintain composure in the face of rudeness or adversity.
Authenticity and Self-Acceptance: Be true to yourself, embracing your identity and uniqueness. Don't let small mistakes hold you back.
Empathy and Connection: Foster genuine connections by showing care, asking about others' well-being, and being transparent and open in communication.
Gratitude and Appreciation: Express gratitude and appreciation for others' efforts, no matter how small, and create a collaborative and appreciative work environment.
Vulnerability and Growth: Understand the power of vulnerability in relationships, as it allows for deeper connections and personal growth.
Forgiveness and Redemption: Believe in the goodness of people, forgive, make amends, and allow others a chance for redemption.
Self-Belief and Hope: Encourage self-belief, maintain hope, and strive for growth, both personally and professionally.
Season 2
Key Moments + Life Lessons in Season 2: 170
In Season 2 of "Ted Lasso," the story continues to follow the ever-optimistic coach as he navigates new challenges, both personal and professional, while aiming to uplift the spirits of the AFC Richmond team. The season explores deeper character arcs, delves into themes of redemption, addresses vulnerability, and reinforces the importance of empathy and camaraderie in the face of adversity.
s2e1 - Goodbye Earl
“There’s two buttons I never like to hit, panic and snooze.” - Ted.
Dani accidentally killing Earl opens up space for Dr. Sharon, a Sports Psychologist to come into the team.
Ted’s heartwarming story about dog that bit him then ended up taking care of him.
s2e2 - Lavender
“All people are different people.” - Beard to Ted, when Ted says he doesn’t like therapy and Beard reminds him of his dancer story. Lesson: We should remember that not all people are the same, we can’t judge someone new based off our past experiences.
Roy to Rebecca - “Don’t you dare settle for fine. You deserve someone that makes you feel you’ve been stuck by fucking lightning.” Pretty clear life lesson about romantic relationships!
Jamie decides to leave football to “build my brand.” Lesson: don’t make short term decisions, know what’s important.
Not everyone has great fathers - bringing Jamie back to give him a chance.
Roy going back.
s2e3 - Do the Right-est Thing
Rebecca doesn’t realize how grown her goddaughter is! Lesson: People change over time - not just kids.
Apologies after you did something - Jamie to team
Make sure you know who you’re representing - Sam & Dubai air
With kids, you can keep things simple - it doesn’t have to be a big production. Roy sharing feedback with Rebecca.
s2e4 - Carol of the Bells (Christmas episode)
Rebecca sees that Ted will be lonely on Christmas so she invites him along with her. Lesson: Include others! Better to spend the holidays with others rather than be alone.
Overall Lesson: Share your gifts with others… it doesn’t have to be money.
Higgins becoming more popular with the players shows his impact and also that the team wants to be together, they have bonded are creating real team culture.
“To the family we’re born with and the family we make along the way!”
s2e5 - Rainbow
“Fairytales don’t start or end in the dark forest.” - Ted to team.
“It will all work out… not how you think it well, or how you hope it does, but believe me, it will all work out. Exactly as it’s supposed to. Our job is to have zero expectations and just let go.” - Ted to team.
“Our deepest fears are like dragons, guarding our deepest treasures.” - Rilke quote Rebecca shares
Higgins not sure if AFC Wrexham (Owned in real life by Ryan Reynolds and Rob McElhenney) call is a joke or not 😂
The best brand is just being yourself. Higgins to Rebecca
Just be assertive - Rebecca to Nate. You don’t need to be loud, you need to be commanding. Nate says she commands every room she walks into. Hardly. I have a secret, I make myself big. To feel my own power. Keeley “fuck you’re amazing, let’s invade france” - don’t back down, you deserve whatever you want.
Football is a game. Have fun!! Stop overthinking.
“When you want to spend the rest of your life coaching with someone, you want the rest of your life to start right away.” - Ted to Roy.
Roy not wanting to commentate and realizing he wants to coach: “We’re here talking about them, we dunno they are going to do, then we sit here complaining when they don’t do what we want them to do. We just judge them.”
“You gotta date your wife.” - Nikki Six Motley Crue in behind the music. Cab driver shares this with Roy.
Roy going to coach teaches us to listen to what’s in your heart!
s2e6 - The Signal
Colin’s Mantra - “I am a strong and capable man.” - Mantras & Affirmations are powerful tools! Learn more here.
Roy says that Ted has stifled Jamie and that Jamie needs to balance out his playing so they can use him to his full potential! Lesson: Sometimes you gotta be the asshole. Don’t dim your gifts! Be a team player but not so much that you shrink.
Ted learning and teaching us that it’s OK to ask for help.
If you repress your feelings and issues for too long, you will explode!
Nate is learning that it’s OK to mess up, you can fail in safe environments. Lesson: You can’t have growth without failure. Be supportive of those who are trying. Fear of failure is the death of innovation.
s2e7 - Headspace
Higgins - say what you’re feeling… insecurity.
“My relationship is the oxygen that gives me life.” - Higgins.
Roy is learning that sometimes, you need space in relationship. Keeley learning that she needs to communicate that better. Lesson: Relationships are a balance of love & mystery, we need space to be healthy. Avoid being co-dependent. Look up Esther Perel to learn more.
The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.
Sharon tells Ted that his belief that “therapists don’t care” is not true. And that it’s OK to charge for your work, Ted doesn’t work for free. Lesson: We need to respect and pay those that help us through mental and emotional challenges, even though we can’t “see” the challenge, it’s an incredibly valuable skill and service.
s2e8 - Man City
parent child relationships are complicated - Jamie
Kids mimick their parents/mentors - Roy and Phoebe
Vulnerability is important. Ted to guys about panic attack. Everyone else opens up.
Parents sometimes suck - Jamie’s Dad.
Roy gives Jamie a hug after interaction with his Dad, that was a HUGE moment for Roy!
Ted opens up to Doc Sharon!
s2e9 - Beard After Hours
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s2e10 - No Weddings and a Funeral
Death affects people in lots of different ways - some people get sad, others get weird and uncomfortable.
“Funerals are a party for sad people.” - Keeley
It is important to talk about death in your own life and with your loved ones. Especially regard
4-7-8 breathing - read more here.
Dress shoes do suck! Now the players see how women have felt for hundreds of years!
Committing suicide isn’t quitting.
Importance of knowing everyone is going through something.
Rebecca’s Mother tells her not to let Rupert know he is affecting her. Lesson: The best way to deal with shitty people is to make sure they know they can’t get to you.
What’s more important? Being loving or being right?
s2e11 - Midnight Train to Royston
Nate being super rude to Will. Putting others down to build himself up. Much life Nate’s Dad does to him.
Nate wants to get all the credit. Showing his jealousy and ego creeping in more.
Trees are cooperative and more interconnected than we originally thought! Great share from Beard!
“Bye bye bye” N*Sync practice to say goodbye to Dr. Sharon is absolutely brilliant!
“Listen to your gut, and on the way to your gut, check in with your heart. Between those two things, they’ll let you know what’s what.”
Nate mistaken, Keeley’s niceness for being attracted to him
Roy not saying anything about Keeley
Ted feeling abandoned by Dr Sharon
Ted helped Sharon become a better therapist by both of them being vulnerable
Sharon Feeling more comfortable writing goodbye than saying it
Sam inspired the world to care about what’s happening at home
Edwin wants the man Sam is, not just the footballer (content of character)
Keeley being nervous about being herself in the magazine… this is about her, not how she looks
Roy giving Keeley reassurance and confidence - so meaningful to receive this feedback and support in a relationship!
Roy & Keeley Looking at each other in the eyes… brings out vulnerability about Nate and Roy with the teacher, then Jamie
Trent giving Ted the heads up about the article - shows Trent cares for and respects Ted.
Nate betrays Ted, tells Trent about Ted’s Panic Attack.
s2e12 - Inverting the Pyramid of Success
“Remember the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
Rebecca Keeley and Higgins supporting Ted about the panic attack
Beard reading “inverting the pyramid” book.
Beard confronts Nate about paper article
Jamie telling Roy he said he loved Keeley - he respects their relationship
Roy not flipping out on Jamie, Forgiving him
Ted owning up to team and admitting he should have told them
“Every choice is a chance.”
“Didn’t give myself a chance to build further trust with you.”
As UCLA basketball coach John Obi-Wan Gandalf says, “it’s our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” This was actually a quote from Dumbeldore in the Harry Potter series!
Keeley gets an offer to open her own PR firm!
Higgins trying to figure out what Keeley was concerned about rather than just asking… could have been multiple things in that situation, all fair, also would have been better if he asked
A good mentor hope you move on, a great mentor knows you will - Higgins
Ask for a sign from the universe - Sam’s Dad
It’ll all wash out in the cycle - Mae to Ted
Roy supporting Keeley’s photos even though they didn’t use any he was in
Beard thinks Nate needs a little push, and Beard says Ted can’t hold it all in or his mustache will pop off
“This Panda has become a Lion.” - Keeley to Rebecca about her growth.
Rebecca super happy for Keeley’s new gig. Lesson: Support your friends growth even when it means you might get to see them less.
Bit of advice for being a boss: Hire your best friend. Rebecca to Keeley
Roy opens up to the guys about he and Keeley - sad they didn’t use a pic with him, hurt his feeling, and she looked so good on her own
Nate super offended Roy doesn’t care that he kissed Keeley
Beard would be happy to headbutt Nate 😂
Sometimes diamond dogs is just chatting about shit and no one has to solve anything
Ask the team why they want to do…
Down 0-2, you gotta believe. Isaac hand on believe sign
Ted confronts Nate… Nate is super mean. Nate takes it out on Ted when he’s actually angry at this Dad. Nate is deeply insecure.
Dani gets redemption at his penalty kick!
Edwin flips the fuck out. Says Sam will never play on Nigerian national team.
Ted opens up about struggles with anxiety in presser, how mental health is dealt with in athletics .
“There’s no greater education than travel.” -Rebecca. Truth! Traveling abroad taught me so many lessons and helped me to be more open-minded!
“I’m staying because it’s what’s best for me and my personal journey.” - Sam to Ted/Rebecca. Lesson: You have to do what’s right for you.
Trent looking for something deeper. Lesson: Follow your passions and your work will be more fulfilling!
“Follow your bliss.”
Trent “loves” his chats with Ted, creating an opening for season 3!
Roy getting Keeley a vacation and she can’t go because she has to work… not breaking up. Very mature.
Sam decides to open a Nigerian restaurant!
Rupert hires Nate and completes Nate’s arc of becoming “the bad guy” / leaning into his dark side, a Star Wars reference the creators have talked about many times.
Season 3
Key Moments + Life Lessons in Season 3: 237
Season 3 of “Ted Lasso” sees our beloved characters continuing to grow and evolve, with nearly everyone improving in some way. They also get more serious about winning.
s3e1 - Smells Like Mean Spirit
Ted still working with Sharon! Lesson: It is so important to continuing supporting your mental health! Not a one and done thing.
Teaching resilience and learning autonomy is healthy.
Ted can’t figure out why he’s still at AFC Richmond, he doesn’t believe.
“Doubt can only be removed by action.” - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Ted telling Rebecca and Higgins how much he misses his son and watching the plane getting further away
Rebecca getting obsessed with beating Rupert
Team also seeing “dead last”
Roy watched Hoosiers
Nate obsessive about Twitter and mean
Keeley so busy she has to schedule time to cry
Taking practice “outside” - doing something different. Lesson: Sometimes you have to switch up your scenery! Change can be a good thing.
Keeley feels so much better after crying: “Crying is like an orgasm for the soul.”
Rebecca wanted to destroy Rupert’s life, now she just wants to beat him and win.
Keeley spending 200 pounds a week on flowers for the office is not approved by Barbara. This is actually a lovely gesture though! Aesthetics matter. Lesson: People will work harder in a pleasant environment and where they feel cared about.
Keeley thought CFO was “corporate flying object.” 🤣
Nate puts others down to make himself feel important.
Team going into the sewer… gotta clean out your brains from the poopeh, keep your tunnels clean so you can stay in flow. Stay connected to one another and let anything we don’t need flow right through.
Henry asked to go on the sewer tour to face his fears
Being direct (Isaac to coach)
Bus driver - ask the earth to help me carry some of my burden
Ted has developed a relationship with the reporters - so sweet
Ted doesn’t lower himself to Nate’s level, just says nice stuff about him then makes fun of himself - wins everyone over and Rebecca
Phoebe asking why Roy and Keeley broke up and they don’t have a good answer.
“One of my core beliefs is that nothing lasts forever.” - Phoebe to Keeley and Roy. Such a sad moment from such a young child. Lesson: Children pick up more than we think. We need to be careful and intentional with our actions and make sure they are getting the right messages.
Ted coming to the realization that he needs to put more effort in this season to actually win.
s3e2 - (I Don't Want to Go to) Chelsea
Keeley trying to bring the office together.
Ted says “yes” to Trent wanting to write a book about the team when Higgins Rebecca and Keeley say no
Trent asking Rebecca about going after Zara just because Rupert is - she admits it
Do something together outside of work with your coworkers
Kinesics study of body language
Roy tells everyone not to talk to Trent, team listens cause they are scared of / respect Roy. Power & influence & respect
Jamie comforts Roy about Keeley & empathy
Shandy idea for video shoot that would save time & money
Keeley hiring Shandy and Barbara intimidating Keeley and Shandy
Keeley stands up to Barbara, incredibly rude. Sets boundaries about how to speak to people. “Maybe you and I can see how good it feels to believe in someone else.”
Keeley asks about the snow globes.
Trent asks Roy to give him a chance
Roy saying hi to the security guard - cute to keep relationships
Chelsea crowd appreciating Roy
Rupert’s persistence with Rebecca when they had first met… he made her feel special, Chosen.
Ted calls Roy out on beef w Trent, ego is about to sabotage something more than a football game
Roy has been holding a newspaper clipping Trent wrote about Roy’s premier league debut 17 years old. Trent was trying to be edgy. Admits he was trying to make a name for himself and look for the worst in people. We both thought each other sucked at each others jobs.
Rebecca calls out Zava: “You’ll never know if you’re actually good or not. You’re overrated and overpaid.”
Keeley: “Did you sweet talk him?” Rebecca: “What’s the opposite of that?” Higgins: “Sour yell.” Rebecca: “Yeah, I did that.”
s3e3 - 4-5-1
Roy thinking about not doing well, started to play worse, left before it became bad. Better to quit than be fired. Mate he should have stayed. Should have stayed and enjoyed himself. (Also with Keeley) not who I am .. Ted “not yet” - but if he wouldn’t have left Chelsea when he did, never would have met
Julie Andrews reference.
Why do we put up with this? As society we adapt to accommodate geniuses.
Zava has everyone breathe together. Lesson: Breathing is incredibly powerful for
The “we” (Zava)
Kintsugi - Japanese process of mending things with gold. Mending flaws and imperfections to make ourselves stronger
Rebecca and Tish meet. Tish shares the following things with Rebecca: a green matchbook, “shite in mining armor,” thunder and lighting and drenched but safe, and that she’s going to be a mother.
Jamie being hypocritical about Zava.
Ted does breathing exercise when he feels panic attack coming on and they help calm him down.
Zava doing chanting & singing bowl with team - I love this! Bringing mindfulness and meditation practices to their training.
We see that Ted is working with Sharon still!
Sam does a restaurant soft open, inviting the team to try it out!
Roy: “You frowning while we’re on a win streak is a bad look.” Jamie: “You frowned your whole career.” Roy: “No, I just didn’t smile. There’s a difference.” Jamie & Roy having a conversation about Jamie moping because of Zava.
Rebecca gets the green matchbook from Sam!
Roy offers to train Jamie - HUGE step for Roy to do this, when he originally wouldn’t even talk to Jamie! Lesson: Roy put his personal feelings aside to help a player and improve the team. Roy is also becoming less stubborn.
“There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.”. - Keeley to Rebecca
s3e4 - Big Week
Sass and Ted hook up again… Ted is still a mess after divorce. Lesson: Take time to mend and don’t rush into things.
Zava - “Ignore the talking heads whether they are saying good or bad things.” Lesson: Don’t get too caught up about the things people say about you, don’t let it inflate your ego or bring you down."
“I’m a work in progmess.” - Ted to Rebecca after she says “Oklahoma” - their word that means they have to tell the truth.
Ted to Rebecca: “You already own you know, you got that turkey out of your life!” referring to Rupert.
Rebecca being way too intense to Ted “have fun” and I believe in you during the game when they are losing.
Rebecca sees Rupert kissing his assistant, later telling Rupert to “stop fucking around.” She doesn’t want him to repeat the same behavior to Bex, which is sweet and shows how good hearted she is, even after Rupert hurt her.
Keeley nicely telling Shandy away from Jack to correct her mistake. Great leadership lesson there!
Ted telling his ex, Michelle… “I have to tell you that I’m hurt, upset that we didn’t get to talk about it.” Also that he couldn’t hold this in - and they have to raise a little boy together. He needed to get it off his chest and share, it was great he did it in such a calm and respectful way.
s3e5 - Signs
Team is on a massive losing streak … Ted needs to take constructive criticism and make changes!
Rebecca hears the “Shite in mining armor” phrase.
Jack tells Keeley about using the “compliment sandwich” tactic - except DONT DO THAT. Read more about what to do instead here.
Talent dysmorphia - we people who underperform think they are awesome.
Zava - “My wife is the only woman I see with clarity, everyone else is just a smudge.”
“The universe is full of things we can’t explain.“ Higgins to Rebecca.
“Psychics can help us see something in ourselves that we can’t see in ourselves.” - Higgins to Rebecca.
“Psychic” and “Bully” moment between Ted and Rebecca.
We can’t keep focusing on them. We are great too. You will not win because of me, you will win because you work together. Together you can achieve anything. Jamie/Zava
Henry wasn’t bullied, he was the bully.
Gotta love someone for who they are not what they are. (Keeley)
Zava doesn’t show up / retire
Rebecca getting bad news from her fertility doctor.
Keeley - I used to be a happy person. Most fun I’ve had in months. (Breakups & work)
If you’re angry, count to ten, if that don’t work, do it again. (Ted told Henry)
The Hip hop song “the message” - a good way to get an apology
If you put your energy into the things, you truly love, the universe put its thing back into you.
Ted does breathing exercise after talking to Henry. Lesson: Importance of breathing and using tools to help mitigate mental health crisis. You should also be proactive about your mental health! Learn more here.
“I wanna win with folks that want to be here. All we need to win is the fellows in this room right now, and all you need to do is believe it.” - Ted to team.
“Belief doesn’t happen because you hang something on a wall… it happens in your head and your heart and your gut. But we got so much crap floating through us that gets in the way. Like envy, fear, and shame.” - Ted to team.
“Belief that I matter, regardless of what I do, or don’t achieve. And then believe that I deserve to be loved, no matter who you’ve hurt, or how you’ve been hurt.” - Ted to team.
“Believe in yourself, and believing in one another is fundamental to being alive.” - Ted to team.
s3e6 - Sunflowers
“She’s going to someone who believes they deserve her.” - Rebecca to Roy when Keeley leaves.
Ted needs to get out of his head, try something new.
Rebecca saying “fuck it” and just going with the flow.
“This thing didn’t happen to me, it happened for me.” - Dutch guy.
Roy learning how to ride a bike with Jamie. This is probably one of the best scenes from the show. Shows so much growth for both of them, Jamie gets a chance to help Roy with something.
Colin’s whole life being 2 lives hiding that he’s gay… “realized that I have an ache for his to 2 lives to become 1.”
“One doesn’t expect to get from life what one has already learned it cannot give, rather one begins to see that life is a kind of sewing time in the harvest is not here.”
Never stop, no matter how many failures. When you know you’re doing what you’re meant to do, you have to try.
Jamie and Roy are vulnerable with each other and bond.
“Gezellig” - means cozy, mind heart soul, the people you’re with the places you go,
Ted seems and dreams up Triangles and wants to incorporate that into their style of play, which Beard later tells him is already a thing called “Total Football.”
Higgins gets to play at jazz club!
Team sings “Every little thing is gunna be all right.” showing that everyone more relaxed, this is clearly a turning point for them!
s3e7 - The Strings That Bind Us
Sam’s restaurant is doing really well - “waiting list” is a lie we tell people.
Sam overthinking things before his Dad’s visit (spoons) - wanting everything to be perfect. Lesson: It doesn’t have to be perfect, the people we love care more about seeing us than material things. (Well, healthy people do at least!)
Total football - is about constant movement!
Trying something new - pay your friend a compliment.
3 things are important to total football: (1) Conditioning (2) Versatility (3) Awareness. Ted doesn’t know the fourth yet… and he doesn’t want to force it. Lesson: it’s okay to leave space for the unknown!
Keeley nervous about relationship, she doesn’t like to hide things - used to everyone knowning everything about me — then they share with office.
“What we shared transcended sex, it was gezellig.” - Rebecca to Keeley about her Amsterdam adventure.
Rebecca and Keeley haven’t seen each other for a while. Lesson: make time for your friends when when in new relationships!
Love bombing - when someone tries to shower you with gifts and material things.
“Sometimes shiny things can tarnish - trust yourself, I ignored so many red flags.” - Rebecca to Keeley.
Love blind - see red flags as giant green flags.
How can you tell is being nice to you or is into you? “You can’t”
Stop waiting, you could fail and be embarrassed for a second, just got for it (mom to Nate)
Switching places with someone else on the team to learn a lesson
Jamie asks who he should be - shows signs of growth
Trent: just want to make sure I have this, right, you’re changing tactics in the middle of the season when the guys are clearly struggling with it? Ted yes! Could go either way!
Japanese culture - believe all soulmates are connected by an invisible red string, attached to their little fingers
Keeley asks gf to stop with all the gifts all the time
Sam gets really angry about the restaurant
You reopen for yourself, for simi, and for all the people that want a taste of home
If you want to piss off the people who did this, forgive them Ola
“don’t fight back, fight forward” Ola to Sam
Jamie - I’m not doing it wrong, you are… we all are.
Stick with it! -Trent
What a fucking dork. Yeah, but he’s our dork! (With affection)
“We asked ourselves, what does this situation need?” Team supporting Sam cleaning restaurant
We discover Sam named the restaurant after his Dad 😭 - what a sweet and heartwarming moment.
s3e8 - We'll Never Have Paris
“Nothing’s impossible.” - Mae
Being supportive when someone is going through an embarrassing moment - Keeley & Jack
Is this a game or child labor? 🤣
“You can’t worry about something that hasn’t happened yet.” - Trent
“Find out before you flip out.” - Higgins
“The Eiffel Tower is a lamp post with a publicist.” - Rebecca 😂
It’s not meant for you, you shouldn’t look at it. It’s not about the law, iys about doing what’s right. Delete any old photos.
Isaac discovers Colin
Restructure society so women are constantly being sexualized, while simultaneously also being criticized for being sexual.
Dress up and look amazing we’re doing something stupid and fun! Mini golf.
Dave Grohl learned to play drums on pillows!
Ted/Michelle rules w Henry Homework; Dinner; Tv time
Jack introducing Keeley as a friend to her friend. Clearly this upsets Keeley
“You need to stop letting yesterday get in the way of today!” - Rebecca to Ted.
Jack- “it’s not something to be proud of.” Keeley - “I don’t regret making that video, and I don’t regret sending it.” This reveals more about both their inner characters… Jack cares more about public appearance. Lesson: Women don’t have to be ashamed for being women and being sexual. Don’t apologize for things when you have a strong belief that what you did was not wrong.
s3e9 - La Locker Room Aux Folles
Keeley has sent A LOT of unanswered texts to Jack.
You’d rather eat a bowl of shit soup, then complain about the portions. Get out of your own way. “Woe is me” thing is ponderous. Rebecca to Roy.
Rupert fucking with Nate.
Roy goes to help Isaac
Colin opens up to the team
“We care very much, and we hate that you’ve been going through it alone. We’re here for you.” - Ted says to Colin on behalf of the team.
Nate sees Rupert for who he is - an asshole.
Roy steps up to do presser! Big growth moment for him.
Roy opens up about story on his old team when he was young. Guy that beat him up but was going through a tough personal time and no one knew. Lesson: We don’t know what people are going through and it’s none of our business. Be kinder.
Issac - you lied to me for years. What is it about me that made you feel like you couldn’t tell me? Colin - it was about me. 99% sure you’d support me.
Isaac - Dunno how you did it. I can’t keep a secret. Colin - I know, I hid it for years, once you found out, I didn’t even last a month.
s3e10 - International Break
“I am the strong silent type, so I probably won’t let you know, but I’m also loud and weak, because I like all humans contain multitudes.” - Ted to team.
Dani being mean to Van Damme when they play for their home countries: Dani for Mexico and Van Damme for Canada. (Honestly I thought this was a little bit TOO MUCH aggression from Dani.)
Ted: “I don’t like gossip.” Rebecca: “it’s not gossip, it’s speculations.” Lesson: There is a fine line between gossip and speculations!
Don’t you think it’s bad karma to celebrate other peoples bad karma? Ted to Beard
Jamie brings Roy a gift for Uncles Day
Edwin being a horrible human
You have a seat at the table, that what matters. - Higgins to Rebecca
Midas shits … Shit helps things grow, love.
Mae has had the place for 40 years. Better to follow your gut than following someone else’s.
“Once you make it to the top of the mountain, what’s left for you but lightning?” … wait, is the lightning a good thing or a bad thing? - Mae : depends if you’re ready for it or not.
Rebecca doing her pump up move
Keeley getting snow globe for Barbara
At the beginning, some people will hate it, because some people hate change. We used to only ride horses, now we can imagine being without our cars.
Remember they were once all a bunch of little boys.
Football isn’t just a game. It can make heroes and villains out of ordinary men. Just because we own these teams doesn’t mean they belong to us. I would hate for all the little kids and grown-ups up there to lose access to that beautiful part of themselves.
Nate’s Dad finally tells him how he really feels… didn’t know how to parent a genius. Pushed him to be the best at everything. I just want my son to be happy.
Rebecca sets boundaries with Rupert.
Roy apologizes to Keeley.
Keeley didn’t want to tell Rebecca about her being “fired” from her Venture Capital firm and having to close KJPR. She was ashamed and embarrassed. Then Renecca decides to invest in Keeley! Lesson: It’s okay to open up to your friends, chances are that they will be supportive and not judgemental.
Nate apologizes to Will, finally!
Rebecca tells Ted she wants to win for us all, it’s not just about her wanting to beat Rupert anymore. Lesson: Resentment will only hold you back from becoming a better version of yourself.
s3e11 - Mom City
A few guys from the team ask Nate to re-join the team, they said they haven’t told Ted and Nate declines.
Ted’s Mom arrives unexpectedly and makes similar jokes but also annoys him. Lesson: The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree… we are often a lot like our parents despite disliking some of their qualities.
Jamie is being super weird.
Shouting is Roy’s love language.
Jamie and Roy have a talk - Jamie’s tired. “Can’t sleep can’t eat. Feel like I’ve lost my wings.” This shows the importance of mental health.
“I do believe in second chances Ted. That’s why I’m still married and my 5 boys are still alive.” - Higgins
Roy asks for Keeley’s help with Jamie.
Running around in circles making sure everyone’s OK without excepting a drop of help for himself. (Ted’s Mom)
“They fuck you up, your mom and Dad. They give you their faults and some extra.” Man hands on misery to man. Get out as early as you can and don’t have any kids yourself. - Mae to Ted.
Nate admits he said “wonder kid” for the first time.
Keeley messes it up with Jamie more.
“You don’t have anything to prove to that toerag.” - Jamie’s Mom to Jamie.
“I don’t wanna be just friends.” - Roy admitting to Keeley how he feels.
Ted gives Jamie time to recover on the sidelines when he gets hurt, rather than replace him right away. This allows for Jamie to come back and score.
Don’t know where my dad is and it’s freaking me the fuck out. // hurt people hurt people. // what would you say to him now? Fuck you and thank you. If hating him isn’t working like it used to, forgive him. It’s for you not him.
We discover that Pep Guardiola (Real life manager of Manchester City) shares Ted Lasso’s sentiment for developing athletes! Pep: “It’s not about the wins and losses, it’s about helping these guys becoming the best version of themselves on and off the field.” Lesson: Focus less on winning and more on developing good character.
Jamie tells the team good job.
“I hope that all of us or none of us are judged by the actions of our weakest moments but rather by the strength we show when and if we’re ever given a second chance.” - Ted.
Beard gives Nate a second chance! We also learn Beard’s history and how Ted helped him.
Ted and his mom have a transparent conversation… Ted: “Fuck you for pretending everything was OK.” Ted’s Mom: “Parents win and lose but mostly we’ll accept a lot of ties.”
Bex & Rupert’s assistant go to Rebecca asking for her help and advice.
s3e12 - So Long, Farewell
Rebecca says “no comment” on Rupert’s divorce even to friends - she truly doesn’t care anymore.
The team performs beautiful “Sound of Music” Goodbye / Goodnight scene.
Rebecca is thinking about selling the club.
“Explore the world, but more importantly explore yourself.” - Rebecca’s Mom to Rebecca.
The 3 fans thank Rebecca and buy her dinner.
Touching moment between Jamie and Roy.. Roy: “Whatever happens on Sunday, I want you to know that I’m proud of you.” Jamie: “Thank you for helping me and encouraging me.” Shows they have truly created a friendship.
Jamie and Roy getting into a fight over who gets to be with Keeley - this is actually not growth and shows they both have work to do.
Rebecca asking Ted to reconsider leaving but Ted knows in his heart and his gut what’s right. We have to listen to our heart and gut.
Nate apologizing to Ted, they share a heartfelt moment.
Roy asking to become part of the Diamond Dogs - shows growth and maturity, being willing to open up to others and be emotionally vulnerable. Also the others in the group reflecting back that he has indeed changed, such a powerful moment from friends and colleagues.
“Change isn’t about trying to be perfect. Perfection sucks, perfection is boring.” - Beard
“Human beings are never going to be perfect, Roy. The best we can do it to keep asking for help and accepting it when you can. And if you keep on doing that, you’ll always be moving towards better.” - Higgins
Rebecca actually addresses Rupert for the first time, rather than him approaching her, showing her growth and ability to move on.
Dani apologies to Van Damme for kicking the ball directly into his face. And Van Damme FINALLY decides to go by Zorro!
Coach Beard puts together a memory video before the game and it’s incredibly meaningful and sentimental. A super thoughtful gift, it can create deeper meaning and connections. Maybe just not sharing it before an important match or presentation.
Fans in the bar rooting for the team, keeping the faith rather than getting mad after the first goal.
Ted giving the team a pep-talk during halftime… Before he talks about the game, he shares a moment of gratitude for the past 3 years. He’s loved watching them grow and develop and thanks them for their patience with them. If y’all play hard, play smart, play together, and believe, then we can go out with the peace of mind knowing we did our best.
Sam brings out his piece of the believe sign which inspires the rest of the players to bring theirs out.
When Jamie pulls his piece of the sign out, we see he kept his book from Ted and we can assume he’s been reading it!
Team puts the puzzle pieces of the sign together,
4 things to make Total Football work - the 4th thing finally becomes clear! (1) Conditioning (2) Versatility (3) Awareness and (4) Believe.
There’’s no place like AFC Richmond… Lesson: you can create an amazing culture and do big things TOGETHER. Everyone has to buy-in.
Rupert tells his manager George to take out Jamie Tarty then pushes George to the ground. Showing he has completely lost ability for self-control. Now everyone is seeing the darker side of Rupert that he’s been hiding. The entire crowd calls him a “wanker” as we leaves.
West Ham score a goal and everyone is devastated but Ted saw that a player was off-side. Shows Ted’s growth and increased knowledge of football!
Ted invites Nate up for the last play of the game, using one of Nates plays, Jamie plays his part and fakes like he wants the ball, everyone comes together to make it work seamlessly.
Colin gets to kiss his boyfriend after they win the game… shows his growth and willingness to be vulnerable in a professional sport.
Ted finally does the running man with the team after they win. Not sure there is a lesson here, it’s just a fun callback to the first episode.
Rebecca decides to keep the club, but sells 49% of shares to fans - showing she is really embracing the team and her chosen family.
Rebecca comes to see Ted at the airport to say a proper goodbye. They share touching moments together, saying simply “thank you” but there is so much more behind those two words for each of them. They have a deep respect for one another and they know they have changed each others lives. Lesson: Tell the people you love why you’re grateful for them and tell them in detail!
Beard finally tells Ted that he doesn’t want to go home with him but he doesn’t want to let him down. Then he has to fake an appendix rupture to get off the plane. Lesson: Don’t be afraid to tell the people you love how you really feel, they will support you! We think people won’t be supportive
Rebecca meets her mystery man outside the airport!! Lesson: You never know what surprises the universe has in store for you!
Beard and Ted gives thoughts on Trent’s book. Beard has lots of notes, Ted simply has one, that he suggests it’s not about him, it’s about the team. Trent changes the title to “The Richmond Way.” Lesson: If you focus on the bigger picture and not on getting the credit, you can have a bigger impact. Note: Paradoxically, the show is still called “Ted Lasso” but I think this opens things up for future spin-off possibilities.
Rebecca names Roy the new manager. Her pushing him throughout this season comes full circle as he steps into this larger role. Lesson: We have to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations in order to grow and take on new challenges.
Sam finally gets to play on the Nigerian national team! Lesson: Never give up on your dreams!
Jamie and his Dad reconcile, his Dad clearly committed to recovery. Shows that you can mend relationships if you ask for the help you need!
Basil, Jeremy, and Paul (the 3 main fans) get one share of the AFC Richmond club!
Keeley changes the name of her firm to KBPR to incorporate Barbara. It shows how inclusive Keeley is.
Roy has a session with Sharon! Shows his growth and dedication to becoming a better version of himself. Lesson: Everyone can benefit from external help and guidance.
The team mend the sign with gold, the Japanese practice of Kintsugi, to show they are stronger than ever.
If you enjoyed this list and want to go deeper on your Personal Development Journey, consider these resources:
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Life isn’t perfect. Tips for Peak Performance and Personal Development. (1 min video)
How I used my Halloween Costume to celebrate ‘Ted Lasso’ AND inspire personal & business growth. PLUS how you can create an “alter ego” to increase confidence and speed up personal growth. (post)
Holiday Mental Health & Wellness Workshop - On-demand workshop
“Inner Glow Method” On-demand - For those who want to take their personal growth journey into hyperspeed!
